Tuesday, December 21, 2010

Goin' through the big "D" and don't mean Dallas

Thank God for divorce!

Well soon to be ex hubby did a couple of really, really irresponsible things (one was actually illegal and the other would've cost me around $2,500 which I don't have). So I told him I want a divorce and he said OK. Woohoo! He had never lived alone before but he is now because I got a fabulous apartment and every day is a joy! I thought for so long I was supposed to stay married and give everything I could but I was wrong. Some people will take advantage of that until I'm living under a bridge and he finds some other sap to mooch off of.

God and divorce - as far as I can tell the Bible says basically to sign some papers and you're divorced. I wish it was that easy still today but, thankfully, it's not impossible. It takes a couple of months but not as much money as I thought it would be. Divorcewriter.com gave me the papers and instructions and the final court date is still over a month away. Far enough in the future he could still destroy my credit (which he admitted he was with me for anyway) but the papers we signed said not to do that so maybe it'll help.

I want people to know that being in a terrible marriage isn't the way you're supposed to live your life. People who have never experienced it probably won't understand. Can you imagine if the people I work with knew what I'd been doing these past several months? They'd stone me to death. I know it isn't how I was supposed to live my life because I've been blessed with so many things since I left, some even before I left. I have the most amazing boyfriend! Sleep at night, peace, joy, happiness, and a much closer relationship with God.

My boyfriend... pure joy. I know I said I wasn't going to get into a serious relationship but I have. He's the best, treats me like the queen wishes she could be treated... always, every single day. I can't quite put him into words. Passionate, generous, loving, fun, sweet, and of course, a little off the beaten path. If he wasn't he wouldn't have dated me while I was still living with ex. Yep, he's the one who lives with his mother but for very good reason and I totally understand. I told him before I even moved out I didn't want to see anyone else anymore, just him. He said he didn't either.

K, that's it for now. Take care out there! I won't take so long to update again. :-)